A few weeks ago, I began a series based on an article that was shared on Facebook titled, “10 Things That The People Who Love Their Lives Are Doing Differently,” by Paul Hudson, originally posted on elitedaily.com.
This article intrigued me because I do consider myself to be someone who loves my life. However, I found several items on this list that I’m not doing very well. So, I thought I’d take each “philosophy” listed and do a bit of “virtual” self-analyzing. I’ll post one item weekly.
After all, there’s always room to love my life a little more.
Here’s the second thing people who love their lives do differently:
This one made me think, because I do love my friends. It’s hard for me to say I don’t rely on them. I think the important thing is that I know I CAN rely on them.
I have always had friends that I can rely on, and I cherish that. But, it’s only been in the last six or seven years that I have friends who accept me completely for who I am, all of the good and perhaps more important, all of the bad.
For too many years in my life, I’ve (consciously or unconsciously) not lived according to the very thing Philosophy #1 states about people who love their life:
They don’t bother trying to make others like them — mainly because they don’t care if they’re liked.
I can’t blame my desire to please–to not disappoint–on anything my past friends did. I made the choice to show them only the good/agreeable/cause-no-trouble side of me. The funny thing is, I don’t think I ever really realized what I was missing until I found friends who, by their courage to show their own flaws, encouraged me to show them every part of who I am.
Not to be overly melodramatic, but it was as if someone cast a magic spell on my life, because even if someone actually IS aghast at who I am–the good, the bad and the ugly–I know I have this circle of friends who will love me no matter what. And that’s exactly how I feel about them, too.